Apart from saying that silence is a form of communication because by keeping silent you’re communicating that you don’t actually want to say anything, they have also added that silence is the best weapon. That is especially supported by the ladies. That gender! So many a times when the lady wants to get you tripping into confessing even the sins you did before you guys ever thought of dating each other, she’ll keep quiet & shut you out. In that process if the guy isn’t strong willed, he’ll cower & come out of his hole & talk everything that she’s hoping he would say or do things she wants him to do that she knew she would fail to get if she asked for them verbally & boy has it has always worked. The dreaded silent treatment.
Silence is surely one of the best ways to communicate that something isn’t right without even having to break a sweat trying to speak a word & works best if your partner knows how to interpret it. It has always worked & during its course, some people have broken down & confessed things that leave many dumbfounded. Yes, it’s that strong.
However, silence as a tool of communication has its negatives but which also come with solutions like;
Prolonging the silence. If you see that your partner has noticed your silence & is willing to talk then drop it, open up & voice your reasons because prolonging the silence may force the other to think that actually things are over. You may think you’re on the winning end when actually the other is starting to get over you & move on & by the time you decide to talk, it’s too late to save anything. But if they show signs of wanting you to open up & discuss the matter then drop it & state your issue because they’re human so they erred & now they want to make amends for it. You’ve achieved your goal so now it’s time to settle down & find solutions.
Your silent treatment must be for a genuine reason because since it is usually a delicate matter, misusing it & making it a common occurrence will make it lose its value & eventually you will get negative responses from your partner because there will reach a time when they’ll think you’re just playing & your target will never be resolved. That’s if your partner isn’t nagged already because of your constant demand for attention especially in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable.
If you notice your partner is silent, take it slow & easy. Don’t trip all over the place like a wet chicken or lose your cool & rush to sudden conclusions before you hear what they’re silent about. You may also try to pay back & act tough yet in the meanwhile, your partner is getting frustrated & moving away due to your lack of attention to detail, pride or insensitivity & by the time you decide to act on it, they’d be half way out of your life.
Relatedly, you must as well learn to read your partner’s body language. You should be able to notice when they’re silent & how they should be treated when they’re giving the silent treatment. Some people are known to shut down when their partners are in this state & instead of both coming together to discuss the matter, they’re both competing to see who holds the record for the longest silence & in the end they end up being very frustrated love birds with unresolved issues that will keep on recurring thus leading to a very disgruntled relationship because eventually the silence turns to anger & fights.
Therefore, learn the tricks that bring your partner out of their silent cave. It may be ice cream, pizza, affection to some part, your response to her body language. You may have your secret dance, jokes or anything. In a good relationship, there are always those things that couples do only known by themselves that can create magic between the two & after they’ve shown signs of willingness to talk, sit down & give in your full attention & cooperation to the matter at hand because your indifference to a silent partner may be an indicator to your lack of desire in working out things in the relationship & if there’s no corporation between lovers especially in clearing the stumbling blocks in their relationship then what else are they living together for?
So, in case you’re thinking of using the silent treatment, think before, know for how long & it must be for a genuine reason. You wouldn’t want to find yourself silent in a situation where you’re totally in the wrong. Embarrassing.
Thanks for reading, stay loving. See you wedding after surviving COVID-19.