On Stealing A Partner; Who To Go For.

On the news and or media we have all heard or kept seeing/hearing people fighting, killing and or arresting others on grounds that they stole/ dated/ wooed their partners away. Whatever you may want to call it. That slowly by slowly, they saw the people they once held dear in their hearts and who had confessed the same as well, started slipping out of their grasps into the indifferent world of strangers or, on the really unfortunate bit, their unfaithful partners. All this blamed on the intrusion of someone else in their world of love-bird-hearts. Damn, have people gone ratchet on this one. Hood fights, social media wars it is always there for so many of others to see. It has usually made the juiciest gossip in the press, these days call it news feeds.But personally, I think it is wrong doing so. Attacking the third party in the case that your partner is having an affair with them. Why? I think an adult is not like an object that you just pick it up, steal and go. They have hearts and minds to decide to be dated and taken by another person from their partners. They have the ability to know what is happening and whether it is right or wrong that which they are doing. They are not damn kindergarteners for Fs sake.So instead of arresting, trash talking or even pulling WWE moves on someone that they
took your partner, I think it would rather be better you firstly of all things sat down that lying cheat partner of yours and discuss why they are accepting to be involved in such behavior. People do not get stolen, they leave with a conscious mind. In law we call that premeditated. They thought about it and acted on it. Yeah. Sometimes I am smart like that. *dusts off my shoulder.There has to be a reason and that reason lies between you two. It may be about finances, the sex, the kids, external pressure, change in character. Oppressed. Maybe they are dissatisfied over what used to come in plenty before and its quality but now it’s depreciated, felt lonely and ignored, abused or were there for a meantime in the relationship (A likely case of a situationship). Anything. Then you can see whether you can deal with it by correcting it or simply accept and let them walk out of the relationship into a new one. Call it agreeing to disagree. Besides, many of the relationships we see now started like that. And most probably the one you are in started just about the same way. I can now see you grinning. Did I tickle your memory?Much as the relationship intruder must also be held accountable for intruding on
privacy, the first person to talk to and deal with should be your partner. There has to be a reason why it happened. In fact, they may be the ones that even made the first move. They may even have told the other person that much as they’re with their partner, they feel you are the one they really love. These things happen.So before you go ham on the relationship intruder and start a telenovela on social media or start drawing swords and pointing fingers at them, first talk with your partner and see if the matter can be resolved or the battle was long lost. My condolences if it already was.

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