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A partner’s past… to know or not to know

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What is a relationship without talking? What is talking in a relationship without talking about your selves? What is talking about yourself in a relationship without talking about your past and what is talking about your past without talking about your love life? I mean what is even taking place during your dating?

 

There is no relationship that can survive without communication. It is the blood of a relationship. Well, today girls have tried to replace it rapidly with the presence of money but still, they have to communicate to get it. Through talking of course. Through talking, we use this important to study our prospective partners. What they like, think, hate blah blah blah and also to get to know how their past life was especially or most importantly their love life. I would really like to know what my girl and her exes used to do, like and fight over for so that I know what I need to do or avoid to be on top of the game and leave a lasting impression. I mean who would not love hearing that your ex still praises you over something good you used to do? I would like to know where she worked, sports she does, movies she watches and music she fancies, dressing preferences and food et al

 

Some people however say that when you meet someone, their past doesn’t matter. That why even bother to dig up the dirt lest you get a mini heart attack. But let me tell you, a partner’s past really matters a lot the same way a nice ass matters on a chick. Well, to some extent though it is mainly her brains that matter. And the looks, duh! Whether you find out through one on one conversation with them or through another party, I best suggest that people need to find out about the people they are dating before taking things further.
Imagine if you catch wind that your partner was a serial killer, but because you do not like digging up the past, you just brush it off just like that. Until you wake up out of sleep one day only to find someone standing over you with a hammer in their hand. Then you might just as well watch your future family get killed. If your partner has as many exs and beyond in short periods of time, you must then really need to study them carefully because something must definitely be wrong.
If they were prostitutes or have children from elsewhere. If they have clingy exs then you might find yourself caught in awkward lovers’ wars. Gosh. The reasons are endless so you really should take a look back at the kind of partner you are dating before you start narrating and writing books about a relationship from hell. Remember, Old habits die hard.

 

 

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  1. “Well, today girls have tried to replace it rapidly with the presence of money…” I’m offended by this, Shadray! 😡

    About finding out about my partner’s past relationships, honestly, I’d rather carry out my own research than ask directly. After all, they can choose to lie or sugarcoat things.

    Even if I were to ask, it won’t be outrightly. Like how can I be asking man what his ex did to make him happy? Eish!

    But hey, that’s just me though.

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  2. Communication is key in relationships and yes knowing your partner’s history matters but what I have noticed people tend to use your past against you , that’s why at times people only tell you the clean version, something that don’t scare you away. Eg I open up to you I used to steal bla bla that’s why xxx left me but now I have reformed. Every time we fight , you bring the issue up or you misplace your staff you always make me your first suspect . So yeah it’s a 50/50 situation

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  3. Communications is key in relationships and yes knowing your partner’s history matters but what I have noticed people tend to use your past against you , that’s why at times people only tell you the clean version, something that don’t scare you away. Eg I open up to you I used to steal bla bla that’s why xxx left me but now I have reformed. Every time we fight , you bring the issue up or you misplace your staff you always make me your first suspect . So yeah it’s a 50/50 situation

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    • Ye, you’re right, communication is key in relationships and true also that people tend to hide some stuff. Well, at least that should happen when you have tried to know the truth other than never trying to know at all and then boom, out of the blue you’re ambushed by the unknown and you can’t even accuse the bastard of lying it you because you never tried to find out that much about them in the first place.

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